{"id":67928,"date":"2015-08-14T14:18:44","date_gmt":"2015-08-14T18:18:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/agrowingobsession.com\/?p=67928"},"modified":"2018-03-15T20:14:33","modified_gmt":"2018-03-16T00:14:33","slug":"diy-therapy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/agrowingobsession.com\/?p=67928","title":{"rendered":"DIY therapy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><big>One of my boys is experiencing some painful romantic complications, which is frustrating for both of us because in grappling with the problem I necessarily have to accept the fact that my boys are now men.  But he hurts, therefore I hurt, which in my case involves wanting to fix it, talk us through it and out of it, when what&#8217;s needed is for me to back the hell off.  Backing off is such a difficult maneuver to master.  To practice backing off, and still being fairly new at it, all I could think of was there needed to be some plants involved.  Am I right? But it&#8217;s 7 o&#8217;clock at night.  The only plants not locked up for the night would be found at the local big box store.  That&#8217;ll do.  Because of the late hour, there&#8217;s nobody else in the nursery department.  Perfect.  I slowly browse the aisles, marveling at the big banner declaring &#8220;<em>Palms are drought tolerant! (when established)<\/em>.&#8221;  That&#8217;s exactly the clear kind of communication that&#8217;s needed in the drought.  And then I inspect the palms, hoping to discover a variegated Caryota mitis perhaps.  No such luck tonight.  Yucca &#8216;Bright Star&#8217; in gallon sizes?  Dream on.  Still not ready to go home, I head into the building supplies section and meander my way over to the lighting.  There it is on the shelf, still $15, a price I had previously deemed a little high for an experiment with a very uncertain outcome.  I hovered, hand outstretched then snatched back a couple times, until in one quick move I made the grab for the light shade, paid for it, and headed home. <\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/i52.photobucket.com\/albums\/g23\/botanizeme\/august2015\/1-P1018169-001.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\" photo 1-P1018169-001.jpg\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Before heading off to work this morning, Marty helped me rig the chain.  This squid agave pup needed to be repotted anyway, so I found a black plastic pot that looked roughly the right size and slipped it in.  If only all our troubles could be fixed this easily.  I may need to go back and get another one or two before things quiet down.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/i52.photobucket.com\/albums\/g23\/botanizeme\/august2015\/1-P1018141.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\" photo 1-P1018141.jpg\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>And while we&#8217;re at the pergola, I might as well take a portrait of the cool plant lurking just outside the brick patio while it&#8217;s still alive.  <a href=\"http:\/\/secondnaturegardendesign.com\/Second_Nature\/Home.html\">Dustin Gimbel<\/a> brought <a href=\"http:\/\/www.subtropical.co.nz\/writingStrobilanthes.htm\">Strobilanthes gossypinus<\/a> back from a visit to Windcliff.  It&#8217;s got an unusual copper overlay to its furry, silvery leaves.  So far it&#8217;s weathering the 90+ degree temps beautifully, knock wood, with some shade from the hottest afternoon sun.  Like bamboo, it&#8217;s a &#8220;mast&#8221; plant, which basically means they are on timers set to flower and die out simultaneously wherever they exist in the world.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/i52.photobucket.com\/albums\/g23\/botanizeme\/august2015\/cactus9.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\" photo cactus9.jpg\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>More cheerful stuff, found at <a href=\"http:\/\/style-files.com\/2015\/08\/09\/made-by-hand-a-spiky-little-vase\/\">The Style-Files<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>Now I&#8217;m out of cheerful.  Oh, wait!  This is totally digressing, but it made me laugh, so I&#8217;ll share.  Maybe because of the heat, Ein threw up this morning, poor pup.  I know that&#8217;s not funny, just hear me out.  Marty immediately recited &#8220;<em>Headache, fever, upset stomach, diarrhea<\/em>,&#8221;  and I laughed, as he knew I would.  Let me explain.  We both knew that was the tersely worded contents of the sick-day note his mom routinely sent whenever he missed a day of school.  Absences that were usually the result of sheer orneriness, not sickness.  His mom liked to cover all the bases.  I&#8217;ve no doubt the school was wise to the situation, but who would dare argue with those symptoms?  What Marty remembers about his mom truly scares me sometimes.  I can&#8217;t imagine what stories mine will tell about me.  I suspect there will be plants involved, though.<\/p>\n<p>Have a great weekend.  May I suggest some DIY therapy perhaps?<br \/>\n<\/big><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of my boys is experiencing some painful romantic complications, which is frustrating for both of us because in grappling with the problem I necessarily have to accept the fact that my boys are now men. 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